I had a great post to share but I am unable to link the material that I want to share. The file is a PDF and so until I get instructions on how to do this I cannot give you all that I wanted.
Nonetheless, I enticed you about anger so let me make a few comments. Anger and frustration are really normal aspects of human experience. Aggression can be motivated by anger but as children age they become more an more sophisticated in their ability to use words to tell us what they think they need, should get to have, and want. Usually conflict erupts when two people have different ideas about how things go. To reduce your anger and de-escalate a conflict try to see the world through your child’s eyes. What is it he wants? Why does she think she should get it? Has she gotten it before? Has someone else gotten it? Does he get it sometimes by using aggression or expressions of anger?
The first step to coping with conflict is letting go of should and facing what is. The second step is to lay out choices that your child can manage.
Whatever you do remember that you are trying to raise a child who recognizes safe and unsafe and knows that you always put safety before everything. Take care that you child does not learn that might makes right or that it is okay to express anger aggressively if you are bigger. They will learn that angry aggressive expressions are okay if you can get away with it. Do you want you child to hold his ground and fight back even if she might hurt someone because the other person “can’t act like that!” Often times walking away feeling strong and recognizing their own strength is more empowering and it is always safer.
If you ask a child why they do not show anger they will tell you because it might start a fight!